Well, not exactly from an RFC, but from
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/MX_record
The sending agent then attempts to establish an SMTP
<http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simple_Mail_Transfer_Protocol>
connection to one of these servers, starting with the one with the
smallest preference number, delivering the message to the first
server with which a connection can be made.
I guess the operative word would be *connection*. The SMTP dialog
appears to have established a connetion.
But if you read on to the next paragraph of the WIKI, one senses that
they dont mean connection, but rather the acceptance of the e-mail.
Which appears to be your position.